Hei sinä lukija! Tämä blogi käsittelee kaikenlaisia asioita maan ja taivaan välillä, koska sellainen minä olen. Tähän alkuun halusin esitellä muutaman asian, jotka määrittelevät hyvin paljon, sitä kuka minä olen ja sitä, miten minä koen itseni ja ympärilläni olevan maailman.
Aluksi ajatus Third Culture Kid:inä (Kolmannen kulttuurin lapsena) olemisesta:
According to sociologist David C. Pollock:
"A Third Culture Kid (TCK) is a person who has spent a significant part of his or her developmental years outside the parents´ culture.
The TCK frequently builds relationships to all of the cultures, while not having full ownership in any.
Although elements from each culture may be assimilated into the TCK´s life experience, the sense of belonging is in relationship to others of similar background."
Ja lisäksi muutamia piirteitä, joita jokainen alkoholistin aikuinen lapsi jossain määrin itsessään tunnistaa:
According to Tony A., 1978:
The Laundry List – 14 Traits of an Adult Child of an Alcoholic
- We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures.
- We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.
- We are frightened of angry people and any personal criticism.
- We either become alcoholics, marry them or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs.
- We live life from the viewpoint of victims and we are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships.
- We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us not to look too closely at our own faults, etc.
- We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others.
- We became addicted to excitement.
- We confuse love and pity and tend to "love" people we can "pity" and "rescue."
- We have "stuffed" our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much (Denial).
- We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem.
- We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings, which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us.
- Alcoholism is a family disease; and we became para-alcoholics and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink.
- Para-alcoholics are reactors rather than actors.
